Learned: Much about Karpman’s Drama Triangle – victim, persecutor, rescuer stemming from the Transactional Analysis world of Eric Berne MD, author of “Games People Play: the Psychology of Human Relations.” How to prepare sweet pepper relish and roughly how to hot water bath process it (boil 15 mins). About this online workshop by Zen Hospice Project‘s Open Death Conversation: End of Life Contemplations, which I will be attending Saturday, March 24, 10:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. PDT. 3.
3+1: All the people who get up every day and move things. YouTube Learning. Rainy days where I don’t have to go out. My ability to accept whatever seems to be happening and not get sucked into drama. 3+1.
Seems: Like it is pretty easy to get hooked into a drama triangle and not even realize you’re in it. Like people around me are often in a drama triangle and I am always outside of it trying to interrupt. Like leaving a slightly more alpha message for the dental school radiology dept. could induce a call-back, but I’m not counting on it. 3.
The Three Questions:
Ask “What if I made this Easy?”
Ask “What about this is REHAB?”
Ask “What if I made this Important?”
Top Three Desirable Habits that want to strengthen:
✔︎ Upgrade: BE willing to do things differently than I think I can.
✔︎ Use LIFE as Rehab (like going with the flow).
✔︎ Embrace community; put self-care first.
Note: If I AM a conversation, establish a way to remember that it’s still active. (Stage 2, remember/forget)
Thinking about: Frè mwen. Fanmi mwen. Mwen-memn. 3.
On-purpose ways of being (let ’em ride): Courageous, radical, confronting and enchanted with forgiveness, peace, freedom and unconditional love in the background always.
Accomplished: Attended workshop on “Unlearning Racism.” Rearranged weekend plans and registered for Hospice workshop. Made Chili and two quiches. Cleaned veg crisper of all old items. Cut up a lot of peppers. Left a challenging message for the dental school radiology dept, in hope of triggering someone’s rescuer response.
from: https://theenergyproject.com/key-ideas/
Key Idea 5 (last one)
A strength overused becomes a liability.
By choosing up sides – this quality is good, and that one is bad – our tendency is to overuse our preferred qualities to the point that they eventually become liabilities.
Continuous hard work, for example, eventually turns into overwork and burnout. Intermittent renewal is the antidote. Too much confidence eventually becomes arrogance, and the balancing quality is humility.
To increase our capacity, we must become more wholly human, embracing and cultivating a broader range of qualities that help us better navigate an increasingly complex world.
Q: Not sure what to ask. How about, “Do you think that’s true? What seems true about it?”
A: I guess when I hear that “we must become more wholly human,” I sense what is meant is like “balanced” rather than wholly human. I feel wholly human when I can’t easily get out of bed, but very much out of balance and wanting to increase my capacity. But maybe it ain’t balance, I just hear balance from seemingly living life out-of-balance. More varied selections on the menu of being. If I keep using the same qualities and strengths that I think are good or that make me good, perhaps I’ll continue to get similar results in life that I have gotten from being the kind of machine I’ve been. So let’s see if alpha demander gets an appointment for dental x-rays.
Video: https://youtu.be/6ml6pjHKcGk – a simple recipe
Watched/Watching: Hulu’s “Casual” and not much else at the moment. I usually get about half an episode of the later-model “The Outer Limits” in before I fall asleep for the night. It’s good to have a show that attracts my sleeping.
Finished: “Collaborating with the Enemy: How to Work with People You Don’t Agree with or Like or Trust” by Adam Kahane. Ties in well with The Energy Project’s 5 Key ideas, although my memory for book learning seems foggy these days, so I might just be saying that.
